My guess is you don’t want to hide from money you want it to flow and attract it…right? Well the reality is that in order to do that, you have to be willing to open your eyes and know in detail where you stand financially.
We all have to take responsibility; for not only our present behaviours, but past ones too. It’s important that we understand how we have created our current financial reality and why. This is where the proverbial ‘rubber meets the road’ because when we unveil the truths and dig through our money beliefs, the truth is revealed. Can it be difficult, time consuming, scary, disappointing and exhausting? Yes! But the other side of that is peace of mind, financial security, accomplishing goals and living your dreams. I’m sure that sounds way better than the latter!
Look I know, because I’ve been there; pretending that I knew where I really stood and hiding out from my own money and trying to fudge the details. It didn’t work so well. When I paid attention to my money; instead of guessing, estimating, and juggling one card to pay another card, I truly healed my relationship with money.
A healthy relationship with your money is critical to creating lasting wealth. The way we treat it, respect it, and value it all matters. Just like any other relationship in our life, our relationship with money can only be healthy if it’s based on honesty, authenticity, and trust. Money always tells the truth.
So I have to hold up the mirror here; dysfunction in this relationship is always caused by ourselves. When I admitted this and stopped making excuses about the role I was playing in this relationship; it was both frightening and freeing. Intimidating because I knew I could no longer blame my divorce, my job, the economy, special circumstances, or bad luck. (Sounded good but didn’t change my situation!)
You probably have a lot of reasons why you are where you are. There’s a reason why you have money—or you don’t. There’s a reason why you’re in debt—or not. There’s a reason that you’re earning what you’re earning and spending what you’re spending.
One of my clients actually said this to me; “If I look at my numbers then I will have to do something!” Truer words were never spoken. So how did this happen? Well, lots of reasons but who cares! What needs to happen now is for you to take action! It’s the first step. Taking action kills the fear of not knowing, fear of the past, fear of getting in trouble again, fear of ____(insert yours here)!
It’s time to surrender and stop blaming, making excuses and start being responsible for your past, present and future. Once I got accountable for my actions, I realized that I could turn this relationship around. But I knew it would take work, practice, consistency and help. I had a mentor who coached me through to the other side. Today I have a great relationship with my money, I know my numbers, why I spend and why I earn what I earn. I am in control of all of it! And if I can do it, so can you!
It starts with you being pro-active. I see too many people who are “re-active” and in panic mode, suffering with the anxiety, shame guilt and embarrassment. When you are in that place of “not knowing” you can tell yourself that you don’t really have to deal with it if you don’t make it real. You tell yourself little white lies; “It’s no big deal, I will be fine, I can deal with this later.” I get it, I have been there!
How many of you have crossed your fingers in the store when the clerk hands you the debit machine and you insert your card? It’s an awful feeling!
Numbers are just numbers. They aren’t personal. What we do with the money gives it the power. This isn’t a judgment about who you are. It’s not about how well-behaved you’ve been, how smart, stupid, naughty or nice you’ve been. It’s about knowing the truth. Period. If you want to repair any damage, improve your money competency or deepen your understanding of money; it is critical that you begin to tell the truth to yourself about your relationship with money.
You need to let go of any old beliefs that justify avoiding the truth. It’s not too late, there is no final destination other than death (and some believe that that’s not the end wither!) and when did you stop believing that you are worth it? Money is just a tool that gives us better choices.
Ready? Tired of it all? Let’s talk about your situation; it may not be as bad as you think! (seriously, most people are closer to what they want than they believe, and that alone is freeing!) Click here to book a call with me. Don’t let money take you out of the game!
When you know better – you do better!