In my experience, through my own life lessons and coaching hundreds of others, I have come to realize that success is much more – a matter of courage – than of ability.
Courage is not the lack of fear, it’s fear plus action. It comes from your heart and is the willingness to reach beyond your comfort zone.
Courage is your thoughts, acts of greatness and your everyday art of being true to your word. It’s a skill you can learn and strengthen through practice and it begins with this question,
“What would you be doing if you were 10 times more courageous?”
Most of us will not choose how we will die, but we all choose – everyday – how we will live. Free will is a great thing, but it comes with responsibility and accountability. The rest of your life falls on your shoulders and only you can decide your fate through the priorities you set, the decisions you make, the efforts you spend, and the sacrifices you make. All your choices today will determine all of your tomorrow.
But too many times in our lives, we see that there are changes that we need to make and we intend to, sometime, soon…
But as Brian Tracy says… first we take a vacation to; ‘Someday I’ll’ (Isle), before we start exercising, reading books, upgrading skills or getting our finances in control…. and we’re not alone. 80% of the population lives on ‘Someday Isle’.
And guess who you are surrounded by? Yup, others just like you, and you swap excuses of ‘why’ you’re there.
If you ask why they are there, they’ll give you answers such as; crappy childhood, no education, no money, a critical boss, marriage sucks, no one appreciates them or the economy is terrible.
All people on ‘Someday Isle’ suffer from ‘excusitis’; they have an arms length of justifications of ‘why’ they are where they are.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
You are greatly influenced — whether you like it or not — by those closest to you. It affects your way of thinking, your self-esteem, and your decisions.
For sure we are all individuals with our own dreams, but research has shown that you’re more affected by your environment than you think. So, first thing you need to do is; Vote yourself off the island!
No more excuses and justifications. When you have a good idea – act on it! If you put as much energy into achieving your goals as you spend making up excuses for failure, you would be amazed at what you can do.
No more settling for what you do, or what you have, just because it’s ‘good enough’.
I believe that most of us learn more and get closer to our goals by taking action and learning what works and what doesn’t work for us.
Successful people have 3 common traits;
Desire – which provides the motivation to get started in the first place.
Determination – to keep you going when inevitable obstacles come up, and
Confidence – that gives you the courage to see it through to the end, even when others don’t believe you.
Here’s the kicker, the best opportunities for success usually don’t come in a brightly colored package with a bow.
They show up in the form of a problem.
Successful people are those who are willing to risk and put their neck on the line. They see a need and act decisively to find a way to achieve it.
They take bold leaps, which builds their confidence. They have a ‘give it a go’ attitude and expect and accept failures as feedback. It never keeps them down.
Let me ask you this;
“When was the last time you did something for the first time? Are you taking advantage of all the possibilities that life has to offer?’
Benjamin Franklin once said, “We’ll have a long time to sleep when we are dead.”
So if not now, when? Life is ticking by.
If you’re unhappy, bored, tired or depressed, then ask yourself these questions;
When was the last time I felt happy or excited? What was the reason for it?
What have I been told I’m really good at…how can I make that a bigger part of my life?
What is one thing I’ve always dreamed of doing but have been too afraid to try?
Once you have some answers then you can start applying them to your life.
There is something special and unique inside of you, and all of us, that is honest, real and authentic.
It’s time to let go of toxic heavy relationships, guilt, sadness, loneliness and your excuses and stories that are keeping you from your purpose.
Get a grip on your fear, get real, raw and involved in your future. Get focused and get a new perspective.
Time to release all the anxiety, the fear of the unknown and the second and third guessing.
Nobody dreams of making it small, no one can tell you how far you can go, it’s up to you.
We are all born with seeds of greatness and our lives work better when we’re in the flow and living our ‘Life Out Loud‘.